5 Ways You’re Wasting Your Time

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Girls, it’s time to get your sh*t together and realize where you’re wasting your time. It’s time to mix things and start achieving a cleaner, better life! But you can only do this by stop wasting time and cutting out these five things that are probably really holding you back:

1. Gossiping…

It’s something you can get easily caught up with when you’re younger. And although us girls may love to know the juicy details of other people’s lives we must remember that gossip is gossip. You hate it when someone is gossiping about you so why do the same thing? This is all stopped for me when I realized how important it was to uplift and inspire other women rather than see them as competition. It’s something we can all be guilty of at times. But it’s a waste of time and it only produces negative energy. Keep it positive and empower instead!

2. Planning but not acting…

I was always a dreamer, I had so many plans. I wanted to be this and I was going to do that. But if there’s one thing about growing up is realizing it’s not as easy as just getting it. When you’re younger it just seems easy and entering the next stage demotivates you enough to stop trying. I’ve been there. But I promised myself that I will live up to the promises I make myself. I schedule things to make sure they get done, and I also include another person always, so I’m not just letting myself down, I’m letting someone else down.  You don’t want to have ten years pass by and wish you had the courage to do something back then. Do it now! What are you waiting for?

3. Comparing yourself to others….

I’m major guilty of this. Other people do it enough for us with sentences like ‘you should be more like her.’ It never makes you feel great, and out of habit, you begin to do it yourself. There’s nothing wrong with admiring another woman because she’s successful and smashing it, but comparing yourself to her will not help you become her. You’re already separating how you’re different rather than how you are the same. Don’t worry about other people, worry about yourself and do what you can to smash it too!

4. Waiting for others….

I’ve always been quite stubborn with this. I’ve never waited for anyone and I never will. It’s a funny quote that’s stuck with me since I was a child ‘A train pulls into the station, it’s not waiting for you and either am I’ and as corny and silly as it is, I know it’s true. There’s no point in wasting your time on people who can’t get their sh*t together for you. They’re people best off left out of your life, to begin with. Because honestly girls, if they wanted to be there, they would have been. Move on to better things, please.

5. Feeling sorry for yourself…

If there’s one thing adulthood has taught me, it’s that no one is going to pull you out of a hole. The only way out is if you climb out. You and only you can do that. Feeling sorry for yourself will take up so much time and reproduce negative energy. Trust me, I know how hard it gets, and I’d love nothing more than to wallow in my misery but I know that will only cause more misery. I have to get up and go because life will pass me by otherwise and it will pass you by too. Do it for yourself, don’t waste any more time!

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photo: Are You Am I

 

Girls, it’s time to get your sh*t together and realize where you’re wasting your time. It’s time to mix things and start achieving a cleaner, better life! But you can only do this by stop wasting time and cutting out these five things that are probably really holding you back:

1. Gossiping…

It’s something you can get easily caught up with when you’re younger. And although us girls may love to know the juicy details of other people’s lives we must remember that gossip is gossip. You hate it when someone is gossiping about you so why do the same thing? This is all stopped for me when I realized how important it was to uplift and inspire other women rather than see them as competition. It’s something we can all be guilty of at times. But it’s a waste of time and it only produces negative energy. Keep it positive and empower instead!

2. Planning but not acting…

I was always a dreamer, I had so many plans. I wanted to be this and I was going to do that. But if there’s one thing about growing up is realizing it’s not as easy as just getting it. When you’re younger it just seems easy and entering the next stage demotivates you enough to stop trying. I’ve been there. But I promised myself that I will live up to the promises I make myself. I schedule things to make sure they get done, and I also include another person always, so I’m not just letting myself down, I’m letting someone else down.  You don’t want to have ten years pass by and wish you had the courage to do something back then. Do it now! What are you waiting for?

3. Comparing yourself to others….

I’m major guilty of this. Other people do it enough for us with sentences like ‘you should be more like her.’ It never makes you feel great, and out of habit, you begin to do it yourself. There’s nothing wrong with admiring another woman because she’s successful and smashing it, but comparing yourself to her will not help you become her. You’re already separating how you’re different rather than how you are the same. Don’t worry about other people, worry about yourself and do what you can to smash it too!

4. Waiting for others….

I’ve always been quite stubborn with this. I’ve never waited for anyone and I never will. It’s a funny quote that’s stuck with me since I was a child ‘A train pulls into the station, it’s not waiting for you and either am I’ and as corny and silly as it is, I know it’s true. There’s no point in wasting your time on people who can’t get their sh*t together for you. They’re people best off left out of your life, to begin with. Because honestly girls, if they wanted to be there, they would have been. Move on to better things, please.

5. Feeling sorry for yourself…

If there’s one thing adulthood has taught me, it’s that no one is going to pull you out of a hole. The only way out is if you climb out. You and only you can do that. Feeling sorry for yourself will take up so much time and reproduce negative energy. Trust me, I know how hard it gets, and I’d love nothing more than to wallow in my misery but I know that will only cause more misery. I have to get up and go because life will pass me by otherwise and it will pass you by too. Do it for yourself, don’t waste any more time!

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  • jasleen

    Nice post!! well, it inspired me to be yourself.

  • So so so true. All of this!

    Hannah | Stories Of A Telescope

  • Betty H.

    I remember a time when things got hard, I just would pull the covers over my head. Then 5 minutes went buy and I said to my self, Self get up and do your thing everybody else is doing their thing. I though the world would just stop
    for me. But it didn’t. So no more covers over my head. Life is fabulous.

  • I totally agree with #3 and I should remind myself with #5. Nice post! Thanks for sharing :)

    trulyfionaa.blogspot.com

  • Nisa Hilal

    To be honest, I caught myself doing all of these points, and things I shouldn’t have wasted my time on. Especially in tough times, I become very weak and turn my back on things and dreams I wished to become true. I think, exactly in these times, people have to get up and do something about it. Eventually, the hard times will pass and after this, I want to look back and say: “Damn girl, it was really tough but you made it! I’m proud of myself!” Thanks for your post, this kind of reminder was exactly what I needed!

    xoxo Nisa Hilal
    (peonycrescent.com)

  • Number 4 is a good one!

  • Teresa Linda Mckay Horsey

    needed!

  • Natalie Redman

    Comparing yourself to others is definitely a good one!

    http://www.upyourvlog.com

  • C. K.

    #4: Waiting for others — doesn’t seem like it would affect us who are all independent and self-serving, but we do end up waiting for “the perfect partner” or “the right time” to do certain things, that really, we can do at any time, with anyone, or just by ourselves!

    Interestingly, the one life we live is long enough for us to waste time, realize we’re wasting time, AND learn how not to waste time.

  • Helen Wakefield

    These are all great points! And I can relate to all of them. I’m continuously learning not to be gossipy or wallow in self pity, to act on things instead of procrastinating, and most importantly I think waiting for others. It’s too easy to compare your lives to someone else’s when scrolling through social media and seeing their “picture perfect” stories. It’s easy to forget it’s not reality. I need to focus on this point more :)

    Helen | The Little Giraffe
    http://www.thelittlegiraffe.org

  • Ugh! Planning but not acting.
    I suffer from that disease! Definitely something I am working on and trying to improve because there are so many things that I know I am great at and will achieve, but I allow fear, sometimes even laziness, to get the best of me! Thanks for this.

    Saphia Louise | Lifestyle, Faith & Travel
    http://www.LifeWithSaph.com

  • Toro

    Feeling sorry for yourself only drags you down, it doesn’t give you a headway at all. You’re just stuck and you dwell on not being good enough.

  • Style_ Steph

    these are all so accurate and just what i needed to read on a sunday before i start a new week :) xx
    stylesteph.com

  • Justine Ann

    i loved this. Just what i needed to read, hear and see ! <3

  • Great points. Comparing yourself to others is such a depressing ting to do and only focusses on the differences rather than similarities. This is made all too easy with Instagram, facebook etc!
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  • Planning but not acting is huge! Sometimes I find myself only looking for inspiration, setting goals, but not actually starting. It’s definitely something I have had to work on. Great list.