Whether you’re on a first date or at a job interview – your body language needs to send out the right vibes (that’s a hell no to folded arms or playing with your hair).
Your conversation may be flowing, and your outfit may be on fleek, but if your posture isn’t working for you, you’re in trouble. It’s too easy to forget about what your arms are doing, but the truth is – your nonverbal communications is just as loud as your words.
We understand the affect our mind can have on our body, but how mindful are we of the affects our body can have on our mind? According to Ted Talker Amy Cuddy, ‘our bodies change our mind, our mind changes our behavior, and our behavior changes our outcomes.’
The proof? After two minutes of power posing, you experience a 20% increase in testosterone (the dominance hormone) and a 25% decrease in cortisol (the stress hormone).
So, how do we ensure we get our body on side and channel effortless comfort and cool confidence? A few tweaks to our mannerisms can do wonders for how others perceive us, and how we think and feel about ourselves.
1. Confident posture
Successful people sit up straight, never scrunch up, and know that the more room you occupy, the more power you assert.
2. Open arms
Closed arms or legs suggest you are not flexible or that you disagree with what is being said.
3. No fidgeting
Successful people know that playing with your hair can suggest a lack of concentration and shine a light on insecurity.
4. Warm facial expressions
A friendly smile can relax the mood and project an ability to stay calm in stressful situations.
5. Strong eye contact
They know that intense eye contact can seem intimidating while poor eye contact can suggest you have something to hide.
6. A firm handshake
Successful people understand that a strong handshake radiates confidence and security.
Try this hack: Stand in the Superwoman Power Pose for two minutes before your next stressful situation (tall posture, high chin, hands on hips) and become less stress-reactive and shutdown and instead; assertive, comfortable and confident. Take a leaf out of Amy Cuddy’s book, and ‘don’t fake it until you make it – fake it until you become it.’
Trying these tips? Drop us a comment in the box below and let us know how it goes!
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