The 60-Second Rule That Will Instantly Make You More Confident

 

Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Or so the quote goes. But it’s often easier said than done to embrace confidence and walk into a room with your head held high. My confidence has grown massively in the past few years thanks to all the terrifying things I’ve thrown myself into. Walking into rooms where I don’t know anybody, doing speeches for a full room. It’s scary at first, but it really helps you grow.

But how do you push yourself to build your confidence? It can be so easy to stay in our comfort zone, I swear by this sixty-second trick to network and build my self-confidence.

The sixty-second trick

Give yourself exactly one minute to meet someone new, but do it quickly before anxiety creeps up and you talk yourself out of it. Have you ever noticed that while you’re having conversations with new people you’re thinking about the tone of your voice and the way you hold yourself instead of focusing on what they’re saying?

Snap out of it! Bring yourself into the conversation and focus solely on what the person you’ve introduced yourself to is saying. When you leave that conversation, write down three things you remember about them, whether it’s in your phone or on a notepad later on. This will help you get better at networking, and remember your conversations if you ever meet again.

1. Start with a genuine compliment

Walking up to someone you don’t know can be a little intimidating, but I like to start with a compliment. It’s so much easier to start a conversation with someone if you ask them where they got their shoes from first, then slide in your introduction after they reply.

As you get more comfortable with the sixty-second technique, you might even apply it to everyday life. Try it in a coffee shop full of strangers, or while you’re out and about shopping. Even if you just give them a compliment and be on your merry way, the way you make someone else feel will give you a huge boost of confidence.

2. Be uncomfortable

Everybody in the world gets nervous, and a little awkward meeting new people. It’s normal. The way to overcome it is to challenge yourself and make yourself uncomfortable. The more you do it, the easier it will become, and the more confidence you will have.

Start small, introducing yourself to new people is a good step, then grow into bigger acts of confidence. Speaking in a room full of people, delivering a presentation, taking control of a meeting, all of those acts come from having the strength to push yourself into things that make you uncomfortable. You’ll be seriously confident in no time!

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Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Or so the quote goes. But it’s often easier said than done to embrace confidence and walk into a room with your head held high. My confidence has grown massively in the past few years thanks to all the terrifying things I’ve thrown myself into. Walking into rooms where I don’t know anybody, doing speeches for a full room. It’s scary at first, but it really helps you grow.

But how do you push yourself to build your confidence? It can be so easy to stay in our comfort zone, I swear by this sixty-second trick to network and build my self-confidence.

The sixty-second trick

Give yourself exactly one minute to meet someone new, but do it quickly before anxiety creeps up and you talk yourself out of it. Have you ever noticed that while you’re having conversations with new people you’re thinking about the tone of your voice and the way you hold yourself instead of focusing on what they’re saying?

Snap out of it! Bring yourself into the conversation and focus solely on what the person you’ve introduced yourself to is saying. When you leave that conversation, write down three things you remember about them, whether it’s in your phone or on a notepad later on. This will help you get better at networking, and remember your conversations if you ever meet again.

1. Start with a genuine compliment

Walking up to someone you don’t know can be a little intimidating, but I like to start with a compliment. It’s so much easier to start a conversation with someone if you ask them where they got their shoes from first, then slide in your introduction after they reply.

As you get more comfortable with the sixty-second technique, you might even apply it to everyday life. Try it in a coffee shop full of strangers, or while you’re out and about shopping. Even if you just give them a compliment and be on your merry way, the way you make someone else feel will give you a huge boost of confidence.

2. Be uncomfortable

Everybody in the world gets nervous, and a little awkward meeting new people. It’s normal. The way to overcome it is to challenge yourself and make yourself uncomfortable. The more you do it, the easier it will become, and the more confidence you will have.

Start small, introducing yourself to new people is a good step, then grow into bigger acts of confidence. Speaking in a room full of people, delivering a presentation, taking control of a meeting, all of those acts come from having the strength to push yourself into things that make you uncomfortable. You’ll be seriously confident in no time!

LET’S CHAT

When was the last time you did something that made you feel uncomfortable? Share your stories with me in the comments below!


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  • Love this! Starting with a genuine compliment is always a lovely way to go

    – Natalie
    http://www.workovereasy.com

  • Victoria

    Such helpful tips! :) I’m often really uncomfortable meeting new people but mostly it’s because I don’t put myself in enough situations where I have to meet new people. I really don’t see how it’ll get easier for me when every person I meet is so different and I can never predict how their personality is going to click with mine so it often makes me even more nervous. Ahh, life!

    -Victoria
    treelinedavenue.com

  • This is helpful! Another great one I’ve learnt is to always put your shoulders ‘in your back pockets’ – if you have good posture you’ll project confidence :) x

    A Little Lucy | Lifestyle Blog

  • I love this! I’m definitely going to put it into practice as I always see girls that I think are pretty, or I love their outfit etc and I’m always too scared to tell them in case they think I’m weird haha but if a girl said something like that to me it’s make my day! Definitely have to make myself uncomfortable like you said and with time it’ll get easier. Thanks for the tips!
    Shannon x

  • Starting with a genuine compliment and just listening to the other person really helps! Most of the time people enjoy talking about themselves, so it only requires to have a good listening ear. :)

  • Taste of France

    Spreading genuine compliments sounds like a good plan making the world a little nicer.
    Smiling helps, too.
    And remember, if somebody isn’t nice, it’s their problem, not yours.

  • Akanksha Padhi

    I loved this post. Am a bit socially awkward and I think the tips above are helpful and easy to follow.

    x https://thehungryshopaholic.com/

  • Great tips! Going up to new people is definitely intimidating, but the idea of starting with a compliment is a perfect way to initiate conversation!

    Shannon
    Clothes & Quotes

  • L By Two

    This is something I’ve always struggled with, you have no idea how helpful this post is. I’m going to remember this the next time I have an interaction with someone new. Thanks so much for sharing :)

    xx
    Lifebytwo.com

  • Thanks for sharing this idea. I will have to try the compliment thing. It is always hard to just talk to someone other than the typical Good Morning.

  • Attended a party where I only knew the guest of honor. Making “small talk” can be challenging, but if you listen and ask questions, you can largely avoid needing to come up with something to say.

  • Anjelica

    Online dating, actually meeting up is the hardest part even if you’ve had entire conversations over text, meeting in person is still nerve wracking. I try to always have a conversation starter ready from something we’ve already chatted about online to get the conversation flowing as easily in person as it was texting. Especially since people hardly talk on the phone anymore, face to face is most effective but seen less and less these days!