How Being Fired Was The Best Thing That Happened To Me

 

Let me tell you, at the time, getting fired definitely was not the best thing that had ever happened to me. I was pushed out of a job that I didn’t even want in the first place. My goals and dreams were pushed to the side in order to make ends meet and instead, I was busting my ass off for a company that wanted me out as soon as I walked through the door. Three months of hell later they got their wish and I was jobless and broke. But, who would have thought that it would have been the biggest blessing in disguise?

I no longer cared how other’s perceived me

As a first-time manager, I came into the job with high confidence levels. I was ready to bring some positive changes to my team. But, let’s just say, the team didn’t respond to me very well. You know that feeling when you know people are talking about you? That’s how I felt every day. And it turned me into a woman I no longer recognized. I had lost all confidence, and most importantly my spark. But in the end, it taught me a valuable lesson. In the world of business, not everyone is going to like you, but it’s not your job to make them. Instead, I stopped letting what other people thought about me, affect me and my work. I made the decision then to not let anything get in the way of my success again.

 

Vinette wears Pinko Long Trousers in Enver Satin Crepe, Topshop Poplin Blouse and uses the Neom Happiness Scented Candle

 

I was forced to be honest with myself

It’s easy to blame the job, but it gave me the self-reflection I needed. I wasn’t the best person for the job because it wasn’t me. It highlighted weaknesses I never knew I had, but it gave me the opportunity to never be recognized for my shortcomings again. So, I got my act together. I outlined my weaknesses and what I could do to turn them into strengths. But more importantly, it led me to ask a lot of questions about what I wanted from life, and if a situation was making me so unhappy in the first place, then what was I doing giving my energy to it in the first place. It taught me not take a job because of money because in the end it really didn’t make me happy.

It led me here

The job may have been hell and I may have lost who I was to it, but I came out of it a stronger woman, who wasn’t afraid of life. If I wasn’t fired, I wouldn’t have had the courage to pursue my real goals. Being pushed out of this job pushed me onto the path that I had been too scared to go down. It helped me overcome the fear because life is all about risks and I know, we can all be a little afraid to take them sometimes. But, if you’re unhappy, take the risk, because if you fall – there will always be someone there to catch you and at least you tried. I had no job, no money, nothing and I just closed my eyes and jumped – now look where I am and look where you could be too.

Photographed by Career Girl Daily at The Dorsett Hotel. Makeup by Jana Pirosko.

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  • Jasmin J. Will Williams

    I went through the same issue. I was fired from my full time job due to having a side job. But I knew that with my previous full time I wasn’t reaching my full potential. Now that I was let go, I got a job that allows me to travel and to create a blog about career advice and entrepreneurship. It was definitely a blessing in disguise.

    • Libby Smith

      When you’re obviously in that moment, it’s scary. But if you take it as a learning opportunity so much can come from it. For me, it forced me to question what it was I actually wanted, which led to me living a much happier life because my energy was dedicated to something I was passionate about, rather than just worrying if I could pay the bills. And I think once you take the worry and fear of money away from it you can tap into something that will give your life much more meaning. Looking back on it, it was the best thing that could have happened to me, because without that experience I wouldn;t be where I am now!

  • I’m currently struggling in a similar scenario. The difference is that I’m still employed but every day I want to quit. My passion is elsewhere and I feel like I’m wasting my own time every single day. As much as I want to follow my dreams and passions of working for myself, I’m also scared to leave this perception of stability.

    • Libby Smith

      This is what happened to me, I used to call my mum up everyday and she pointed out that I wasn’t myself. And I felt every single day I was getting further and further away from my goals. I desperately needed the money, I was living by myself with no savings and bills to pay. I wasn’t looking for other jobs because I felt demotivated and felt too “down” to do so. But as soon as it happened, it’s like that veil was lifted and I was back to that go-getter girl I was proud to be. Life is too short to waste it stuck somewhere unhappy. You’ve got to want it and believe you’re good enough to get it. I was scared that I was going to fail and have to move back home – but I worked hard and I got to where I am. Life is nothing without risk, so do what makes you happy and don’t wait forever to do that. If it makes you feel better, create a safety net around you so you’ve got the time to figure it out. I’m lucky that I had the support of my family.

    • Ramona Gohil

      I think that’s the hardest part, leaving the ‘stability’. Thing is, society tells us that a 9-5 job is the safe option as you have a regular income, but we all have talents and a purpose. Society also tells us that creative talents don’t get you anywhere, which is a lie. Just follow your gut and do what feels good, when you play to your strengths success comes with it. You can even take it in baby steps, maybe start a business on the side whilst doing your day job, then slowly cut down your hours and go full time self employed. It’s scary but so worth it, you can do it!

      http://www.raniandco.com

  • I kept thinking of leaving every single day for the past 2 years. My efforts are not appeciated by my company. In fact, I currently working a job solely based on my qualification but not my passion. It is so exhausting like being in a unhealthy relationship. But I am afraid of failure that if I leave my job now that I am married with a son. So right now I am gathering my sources to achieve my dream goal to walk through the exit. What fear me the most is, what if it doesn’t work out? I have to leave one way or another.

  • Ramona Gohil

    Crappy jobs are blessing in disguise. They make day to day living a chore, but they also make you step back and think about what you really want to do with your life. I had 3 years of crappy jobs and I was tired of being over-educated and underpaid, so I took the jump and started my own business.
    If there aren’t any opportunities, create your own.

    http://www.raniandco.com

    • Kimberly Jeannette

      This is very inspirational, I also had a similar experience. Your website, products, and Instagram are amazing! Following for sure! ❤

      • Ramona Gohil

        Aw thank you so much Kimberly! Means the world xxx

  • Jenny Amponsah

    I can’t stress enough how much I identified with the above. I was in a very similar situation not too long ago – I was in my previous job for 12 years, but the last 2 years working there were complete and utter hell, having to put up with bullying colleagues and a bullying boss (who thankfully retired). Luckily I plucked up the courage to leave and find something else. Whilst this new job certainly has its challenges and I’m unsure of how long I’ll be there, I’m so much happier now I’m not at my old place anymore!

  • A job from hell does lead you in better directions. I had such a crappy job 6 months back and it made me miserable. I looked for a way out and found it. The best decision I made and I realised how important it was to be overall happy in everything.
    a life of a charlotte
    x

    • Ramona Gohil

      Totally agree with the first sentence! Contrast helps you decide what you want xxx

      http://www.raniandco.com