Disclaimer: I will share this story with you only on the conditions that nobody alerts said boyfriend to this article’s existence as I cannot deal with his smug face.
Fab. Now that’s out of the way, I’ve been thinking a lot recently about success and relationships. Do they go hand in hand? A lot of career women we’ve heard of or spoken to have sacrificed their relationships to pursue their career. Which is admirable, I think. It must be a terribly hard decision, one that takes some serious thinking and deliberating.
Chasing success can break a relationship. Late nights, career advancing drinks that you shouldn’t take your other half to, weird hours, snappy, stressy behavior. It doesn’t really go down well with building a relationship.
Today, I want to chronicle all the ways that my boyfriend makes me a successful Career Girl to give a boost to all my hard-working women in relationships. It’s nice to be thankful for the support. And if you’re facing the tough decision of career vs relationship, maybe this will help sway it for you…
He’s quite understanding when I drift off mid-sentence
I’m not a horrible girlfriend to have, really, I just snap sometimes or drift off mid conversation because something flashed up on the WhatsApp group, or an interesting email landed in my inbox. I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother him, but luckily he’s always there to be teased or ignored. You need someone around you who gets that they aren’t always your number one priority, even if it’s just temporarily, while you build an empire or follow your dreams.
He motivates me to get my goals aligned
He’s really good at this, actually. Whenever I’m moaning that I don’t want to do something, he reminds me of the why. He tells me about the things I’ve said when I’ve had a great day, or when things are going amazingly and my to-do list is empty.
It’s the little things
Like coming home from events all day to work without eating, knowing that if I call him he’ll swing by the shop and get me some snacks. Or that he will take care of the cooking and some of the cleaning for me, because he knows what a frazzled being I am. Those things really take a weight off my mind. If I lived alone I know I would probably not feed myself and never wash my clothes, so I’m really grateful.
He creates the fun
I love CGD, I love our work and our team. But sometimes it’s really nice to put my phone on airplane mode and talk about something else. A few weekends ago my boyfriend and I went to a whisky bar and stayed out until the early hours of the morning. It’s really important to us that we spend some time together, alone. Or even with our best friends. You need someone who you can escape from the stresses of everyday life with. Having something to look forward to on the weekends is the best.
In conclusion, I wouldn’t be who I am today without the support and hilarious-ness of my relationship, I’m confident and I work my butt off all because he’s there behind the scenes lighting a fire under my butt. Relationships can absolutely motivate you to be your best self, but you can achieve just as much when you’re unattached. In the end, I always say follow your heart. It usually knows what’s best.