How To Make Sure Your Goals Are Motivating And Not Frustrating

photo:Oscar Wylee

 

After moving to Madrid in October 2015 I found myself working with people who were fluent in Spanish, while I had next to no knowledge of the local language. If I could change one thing about my first weeks in Madrid, it would be not putting myself under pressure.

My goal while working was to be as good as everyone else, which was impossible because of my lack of Spanish skills. My goal to perform as well as the natives then became frustrating. As it was almost impossible to achieve! And when your goals become frustrating you’re more likely to put them off. So here are a few ways to make sure your goals stay motivating…

#1 Know your skills
From the point I realized that my goal was frustrating me, I began to understand how to set motivating goals: You have to understand what you are able to do. In my case, this meant searching for ways to make up for my lack of Spanish. But I also looked for ways to take advantage of this, by bringing something from my native country and native language to Spain.

#2 Don’t set limits
Most of us stop working towards a goal when we believe we can’t achieve it. Now this is a difficult one: You need to know what you are able to do and tailor your goals to your own needs, but also you should not set limits to them. When formulating your goals, do not say when you will consider a goal achieved – you can always keep going further!

#3 Break it off into small steps
When you are trying to learn a new language, your goal should not be to be fluent in one year – or at least it should not be your only goal. Plan the process and set small goals: Memorizing your first 500 words, learning how verbs work etc. It is good to have big goals, but when you do not plan your process, you will never know where to begin.

#4 Draw your goals 
It’s cathartic and a great stress-release. Drawing your goals on paper can help you refocus them and figure out what really matters. The CGD team drew their goals recently for Snapchat. They found out that most twenty-somethings have similar goals, and that when you’re confronted with blank paper you really have to think about what you want.

 

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  • Sofia Isaksson

    I really liked this post! I’m at a point where the easist thing would be to just give up… I guess I put too high expectations on myself. I’ll keep this in mind. Thanks for sharing :)

  • Setting the vision and then chunking it down for me is a key to moving forward toward my goals.. Thanks for this post.. x Brilliancewithin.com

  • Good advice, I really agree with #3 about taking baby steps to get to your goal. One step at a time. :)

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  • I can really relate to this as I recently spent 4 months in Tenerife learning Spanish. Yesterday I went to meet someone who I told I had beginners Spanish. She told me my Spanish was so good and I’d achieved so much in just 3 months. For me “You have to understand what you are able to do.” resonated as I often set myself goals with unrealistic expectations – normally timing. So this was a great reminder.

  • Love this! I recently took up Italian for my holiday to Rome and really enjoyed the thrill of learning a new language. I learned German at school and during a month long internship in Berlin and its such a thrill to converse (even a little) in a different language! This makes me want to stick at it, thank you!

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  • hanan abdi

    I really needed to hear this, thank you :) xx

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  • This is a great article!
    xo,
    Erica
    whattheclique.blogspot.com

  • This was so helpful for me and definitely something I needed to read! x

  • I really should go back on writing my plans and goals on my planner! ^__^

    Augustin Ra | Indie Spirit

  • Gitana Deneff

    I really need to focus on #3. Good post!

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  • Palesa

    Great post!! Great reminders as well!!

  • GREAT post!
    Just discovered your blog and I am def coming back for more reads!

    XO,

    Aïchatou Bella,

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  • I love your blog! So inspiring :)

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