How To Overcome Feeling Uncomfortable At Work

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Whether you’re new to the scene or you’re best work colleague has left and now you’re alone, work can sometimes be uncomfortable. Cliques can be formed and you can be an outsider. We can all feel out of control and alone at times, but here are the top ways you can overcome this and be the true Girl Boss you are!

1. Go in with a positive mindset 

Don’t go into the office with a mindset that you are an outsider. Don’t go in thinking this is totally uncomfortable. The way I overcome this is by exuberating confidence, I talk to people. I talk to people a lot. I overcome those negative thoughts telling me I’m not good enough, and instead, I believe I am.

 

2. Take credit

There’s nothing worse when your boss gives credit to someone else for the work you did. But it can be awkward and hard to stand up for yourself and say ‘hey, no! That was me!’ More often or not, we leave it. When I first started out I swallowed it, but when it keeps happening your boss doesn’t see you as invaluable but them. Pick your timing, choose when to say. Don’t make a scene, but how will they know any different if you don’t speak up for yourself?

3. Invite a colleague to lunch 

Think today I’m going to invite the girls out to lunch. Break those boundaries that usually constrict you. Challenge yourself. The best way to start feeling more comfortable at work is by making friends (aka a support unit). Go up to a group of people you want to socialize with in the canteen and ask to join them. By doing this you will give yourself a chance to feel more comfortable in the office.

4. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Nobody likes a Debbie downer, someone who can’t let loose and have a little fun. If everyone is jamming to the radio, join in! Or only talking about work when everyone is talking about their weekend plans. You need to cut loose, socialize and show off your personality, otherwise, people will avoid you.

5. Become the master of small talk

When you’re stuck with your boss and all you can hear is the silence around you, it can get a bit awkward! But it’s probably just as awkward for them too. We’re all human and we all feel the same things. But don’t pull out your phone and don’t ignore them. Just be confident, talk about something new and current going on in the office, or if you struggle that bad – talk about the weather!

6. Be Honest

Ok, you’ve been caught out Snapchatting in the office or watching videos of cats on your lunch break. It’s awkward, and you’ve been caught with your fingers in the cookie jar. We all want our bosses to see us in the best light possible, but sometimes embarrassing stuff happens. But remember it happens to them too, so just be honest, say ‘Sorry, just taking a much-needed breather break from an article that’s killing me slowly.’ Joke, laugh, but just don’t slack off!

7. Offer to help a colleague out 

By offering to help out a colleague in need, you are setting in stone alliances. They basically owe you one, so they will have to acknowledge you and your small talk and that’s a stepping stone. Once everyone in the office sees that you are approachable, they’ll all come running to you!

 

Tell us how you overcome any discomfort at work in the comments below!


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photo: @grau

 

Whether you’re new to the scene or you’re best work colleague has left and now you’re alone, work can sometimes be uncomfortable. Cliques can be formed and you can be an outsider. We can all feel out of control and alone at times, but here are the top ways you can overcome this and be the true Girl Boss you are!

1. Go in with a positive mindset 

Don’t go into the office with a mindset that you are an outsider. Don’t go in thinking this is totally uncomfortable. The way I overcome this is by exuberating confidence, I talk to people. I talk to people a lot. I overcome those negative thoughts telling me I’m not good enough, and instead, I believe I am.

 

2. Take credit

There’s nothing worse when your boss gives credit to someone else for the work you did. But it can be awkward and hard to stand up for yourself and say ‘hey, no! That was me!’ More often or not, we leave it. When I first started out I swallowed it, but when it keeps happening your boss doesn’t see you as invaluable but them. Pick your timing, choose when to say. Don’t make a scene, but how will they know any different if you don’t speak up for yourself?

3. Invite a colleague to lunch 

Think today I’m going to invite the girls out to lunch. Break those boundaries that usually constrict you. Challenge yourself. The best way to start feeling more comfortable at work is by making friends (aka a support unit). Go up to a group of people you want to socialize with in the canteen and ask to join them. By doing this you will give yourself a chance to feel more comfortable in the office.

4. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Nobody likes a Debbie downer, someone who can’t let loose and have a little fun. If everyone is jamming to the radio, join in! Or only talking about work when everyone is talking about their weekend plans. You need to cut loose, socialize and show off your personality, otherwise, people will avoid you.

5. Become the master of small talk

When you’re stuck with your boss and all you can hear is the silence around you, it can get a bit awkward! But it’s probably just as awkward for them too. We’re all human and we all feel the same things. But don’t pull out your phone and don’t ignore them. Just be confident, talk about something new and current going on in the office, or if you struggle that bad – talk about the weather!

6. Be Honest

Ok, you’ve been caught out Snapchatting in the office or watching videos of cats on your lunch break. It’s awkward, and you’ve been caught with your fingers in the cookie jar. We all want our bosses to see us in the best light possible, but sometimes embarrassing stuff happens. But remember it happens to them too, so just be honest, say ‘Sorry, just taking a much-needed breather break from an article that’s killing me slowly.’ Joke, laugh, but just don’t slack off!

7. Offer to help a colleague out 

By offering to help out a colleague in need, you are setting in stone alliances. They basically owe you one, so they will have to acknowledge you and your small talk and that’s a stepping stone. Once everyone in the office sees that you are approachable, they’ll all come running to you!

 

Tell us how you overcome any discomfort at work in the comments below!


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  • 100% invite people to lunch or go and sit with people! This has made such a big difference to my work day and how I feel about my job

    – Natalie
    http://www.workovereasy.com

  • sarak

    i go with small talks cause they help you to relax your mind