London is a multicultural city with millions of citizens and activities to do. But this doesn’t mean that talking to a stranger or making new friends has become any easier. We are the online generation so this is why a few months back I decided to give online dating a shot. I downloaded Tinder on my phone, uploaded my best pics, and I started swiping.
I went on a few dates. Some went well and some left me wanting to exit out of the bathroom window. In the end, I actually got to meet a lot of new people. But it taught me some valuable lessons too. Let’s face it, the only reason why most of us download tinder is that we are still hoping to find our Prince Charming!
While I can’t say it helped me find true love. This experience definitely helped me to learn to put my foot down, how to say no and make the others respect my will. It’s an important quality in dating, but also applies to my career. Learning to say no to things that made me feel uncomfortable made me respect my own voice. But most importantly it helped me figure out that I should never compromise who I am in exchange for love.
Be true to yourself
When you meet someone for the first time and you have no common friends or previous connections it’s easy to lie. You have the opportunity to start afresh and portray the image of yourself that you choose to portray. The problem is a day will come when the real you will have to come out.
On my first dates, I chose to portray a more reserved, classy me thinking that a guy would appreciate those qualities more. Until I discovered there was no point in faking who I am. Your significant other will love you for who you are, warts and all. If you base a relationship on faking it, then it won’t last. Same goes for your career, if you spend all your time pretending to have common ground with your co-workers, you will end up unhappy. I stopped compromising myself and started to show the real Ludovica from the very first date.
So thank you Tinder. I may not have found my one true love (yet) but I have definitely learned a few lessons about myself.