You Are Unique: 4 Reasons Why You Need To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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If there is one thing all us girls need to stop doing it is comparing ourselves with others. It is probably one of the most hurtful and cruel things we do to ourselves. Whether we do it in our heads or with a group of friends (we all had that moment when a new girl walks in and questions like ‘Is she prettier/smarter/better dressed than me?’ are raised!) we need to stop doing it. It is unfair to us and others on so many levels and adds 0 value to our lives.

We give you 4 reasons why you need to absolutely stop comparing your beautiful self to others:

#1- Comparisons are always unfair and is damaging to your sense of self

Science explored the feelings someone has while comparing themselves to others. Comparing ourselves with others gives us feelings like envy, low-self confidence, depression and compromises our ability to trust. We typically tend to compare our flaws with other people’s strengths, which makes it an unfair battle to begin with.

#2- You are unique 

You really are! Everyone has different talents and that is a good thing. Focus on developing your own specialties instead of the talents, you do not have, but others do.

#3- Comparing makes you focus on the wrong person

Your focus is on others while it should be on you, your values and your goals. The only life we can control is our own, so control it and don’t waste it on comparing yourself to someone else. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you think that someone else is more successful, smarter or prettier than you, cause that will eat your motivation and makes you lose focus on your goals.

#4- Comparison is the death of joy

Comparison will distract you from joy and all the fun things you could have done in the meantime. It does not add value, meaning or happiness to your life and therefore it is a waste of time. Next time you are out and catch yourself comparing yourself to other people, try to stop doing it and go talk to them instead. Turn this negative habit into something positive and get to know new people (or old ones better).

  • Cait Wood

    Really awesome post – thanks for the advice :)

  • Jabeen Waheed

    These are lovely pointers! I always feel like I’m comparing myself to others and it’s such a bummer sometimes!

  • Stefanie

    Great post! Comparing ourselves to others is definitely one of the most toxic things especially us girls are doing… I love your blog by the way :)

    Stefanie x

  • Noemi

    You’re so right. Girls (and women) often make comparison, which is really, as Theodore Roosevelt said, the thief of joy.

  • Elena

    So true your words!!
    AMAZING Blog-Website! :*

    xxx Elena

  • Bex

    I just wish it was easy to stop! Envy is a serious problem for me and I know it. Any tips? Xx

  • Sharan

    Incredible post – I tend to compare myself to others a lot, and it really is damaging! Need this today xo

    Sharan |

  • Sophie

    This is SO what I needed to read right now. I’m almost 27 and all my friends are getting married and have great jobs and then there’s me……I love this so much. Thank you =)

    Sophie |

  • Anna

    thanks for this!! I definitely need to remember this to myself sometimes <3

  • Onyxsta

    That’s so true!
    We compare our flaws with others’ strengths
    Great post

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  • A. P. Bullard


    Comparing myself to others is one of my biggest pitfalls, and your post was super helpful in addressing that in a positive manner. Thanks for sharing! Great post.


  • Toni Marie

    Great post! Love these reasons :)

  • Joanna

    It’s a great post, thank you! I used to concentrate on othr people A LOT and I was ALL THE TIME comparing myself with the others. I’m working on it now, but I still need to remind myself why is it so bad. These kind of posts are really helpfull for me. :)

  • Emily

    I love these tips. One of my aims for 2015 was to stop comparing myself to others as it is so damaging.

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  • Elizabeth Rebecca

    I really needed this post today; I need to remember that I am valuable and that I can improve. Amazing post.

    Lizzie Dripping

  • Lovely Sharice

    Absolutely love this post! Another thing I would add is to stop using social media as a way to see how we measure up to others because we all know that everything we see and read isn’t true. Must learn to love ourselves…

  • Dinka

    Soo nice advices, I wanted to post something like this but I alwaus quit :D

  • Stéphie

    It was very good post, I loved it !

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