We’ve all had moments when we could use a little more confidence, especially when we’re meeting someone for the first time. Most of the time, all it takes is just a matter of adjusting our body language to appear confident and self-assured. Here are some body language tips and tricks confident people swear by.
Next time you meet someone who appears super confident, watch the way they hold themselves. You’ll see they have these tricks in common!
Posture
Many people underestimate the power of great posture. Push back your shoulders, lift your chest (just a little) and keep your eyes up. Nothing shows confidence like standing tall and owning your space. Plus, it’s bad for your back if you’re slouching all the time, which could lead to potential spine problems. Also, good posture shows that you are proud of who you are and that you’re not afraid to rock the room. Bonus: it adds a little height too!
Point your feet
Another rule of thumb in the game of confidence is to point your feet towards someone when you’re conversing with them. This shows that you are open, friendly and interested to really converse with the person in front of you. Also, this allows you to keep eye contact with the person you are conversing it, which clearly indicates that you are self-assured and confident.
Don’t fidget
Playing with your hair, moving your legs and tapping your fingers are all signs of boredom, frustration or anxiety. Fidgeting sends a loud message that you’re unsure of yourself, something that people can take notice quickly. Avoid this by holding your hands on your lap, or if you’re standing, keep your feet firmly planted on the ground. If you feel the urge to fidget, take a few deep, calming breaths.
Have a strong handshake
A firm handshake is the universal sign of confidence. Whether or not you feel confidence, a firm handshake communicates feelings of power while making you appear more confident. Just make sure that your handshake doesn’t crush anyone. Practice with a friend and ask them to provide feedback on your handshake.
Smile
Lastly, smile. And it’s not just smiling with your lips, but with your eyes too. It’s easy to tell a fake smile from a genuine one. So, keep that smile in check and be sure to nod along (not too much) when listening to someone speak. If you’re at a party and you don’t know anyone in the room, smile and approach people. It will make you seem more confident and friendly.
LET’S CHAT
Have you tried any of these? Did they make you feel more confident?
Super important!
Gemma
http://www.fadedwindmills.com
When people have a weak handshake (male or female) it automatically throws me off. I feel like it means that they don’t care to meet me, or think that they’re better than I am… all really negative aspects. It’s the first point of contact, so it should be a good one!!
https://thedianaedition.com
I did not know about “point your feet”, that’s a great suggestion. I work in a multi cultural area where greeting someone is not dependant so much on just the firm handshake, is also the eye contact made during handshake that important.
And of course in some cultures eye contact not something done.
Great piece!
I’m always a fan of a firm handshake! :)
Carissa
about.me/carissamorais
These are all great tips! I like how you mentioned smiling with the eyes as well because it makes such a huge difference when interacting with someone!
-Sienna
https://www.modernbeautygirl.com
Love all of these tips! A handshake is key :)
Emma | http://www.emmalenhart.com