6 Things Every Independent Girl Needs In A Boyfriend

photo: Janice Joostema


I’ve never been exactly lucky in love. I’ve had a lot of broken hearts along the way and a lot of losers. So, you can trust me when I tell you that I’ve had to kiss a lot of frogs. But I have learned a lot along the way. Hands up if you get where I’m coming from?

Sometimes when you’re successful, rocking life and loving being independent, you don’t really want someone to come along and ruin it all! So are you looking for love or just measuring up your boo to this list? Here are some qualities you definitely need in a guy!

1. He’s happy to hang out with you

There’s nothing worse than a guy that wants to keep his “boys” separate. Of course, we all want time with the girls and he probably enjoys time with his guys, but you want someone to want to spend time with you because the main thing is that you are friends! You’re independent, it’s the 21st century, you want to be valued for your ability to have fun when you’re on a night out with his friends. Truth bomb.

2. He’s understanding

Ok so if you’re career driven, you’re going to be spending a lot of nights working, long days hustling, and you’ll probably bring your work home with you as well. You need someone who motivates you and understands the struggles, rather than gets jealous and envious of what you’re doing. It’s something you only figure out once you’ve been dating for a while, but someone who supports your ambition is a real winner!

3. He’s ambitious AF

Being the busy career girl you are, you haven’t got the time or energy to help and push another person to do something with their life. You need a guy who has his own dream, his own ambition and works hard for it and appreciates you for doing the same. I’m tired of wasting my time on guys trying to make them do something with their life – it’s their life to do it with. And a guy that is set-up is sexy!

4. He’s the right amount of honest

No one can be completely honest, and we wouldn’t want them to be, white lies exist for a reason… he has to tell you that you look good in that dress even if he doesn’t think you do! But if he is honest and communicates with you (in a kind way!), he’s a winner. You’ll trust what he says because he’s never given you a reason not to.

5. He has a life

There’s nothing worse than a guy who doesn’t want to leave the house, it’s those sort of guys that drag you inside with them – and well, that’s just not good unless it’s November and you’re binge watching Netflix on a dark evening. You don’t want a guy that’s going to isolate you from your life but brings you out more. You want someone who is social and enjoys being out because he’ll make you want to be out too!

6. He lets you breathe

When you’re in love I know you want to be together all the time! But sometimes you can’t hang out because you have work to do tonight, or he’s got plans with a friend tomorrow etc. Time away from each other is good because you long for the time together. If he can give you your space and handle it properly you’ll have a strong relationship.



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  • dreamofadventures

    #6 is so important! having a level of freedom is always helpful in a relationship



    Totally agree with this list! Especially “he has a life”, both yourself and your bf need to have your own lives, do whatever it is that you like on your own… have your own friends. Not everything has to be together!


  • Saphia Louise

    So much necessary truth in this! I couldn’t have said it better. These are like the essentials that you should have in your relationship! I can’t even choose a favorite because they all matter!

    Saphia Louise | Lifestyle, Faith & Travel

  • Lindsey

    I went into this list a little skeptical that all 6 would fit but hot damn are they all spot on!


  • Alicia S

    I find guys get annoyed at the fact that I’m career driven, and they’re not willing to wait for me to reply to a couple of emails before I come and cuddle them or that I can’t come see them one evening because I’ve got an event. Hopefully I’ll start being more lucky in love in the future.
    Alicia x

  • Nadya Rousseau

    Yes! I totally agree. I am bisexual, so I also date women and this applies to both genders. #trust

  • Estelle de la Rey

    I am almost married for 37 years ! I never married my husband to make me happy! You have to love yourself then everything else will fall into place.

  • Toro

    I feel that finding the right man that compliments me has a lot to do with the standards I set for myself.

  • Laura Mareno

    Couldn’t agree with this post more!! we shouldn’t settle for any less than that! kisses:D


  • Katie

    YES! I love this, all of this. So good to read, such a wonderful reminder :).

    Katie // wordsbykatie.com

  • Agatha Sarah

    Wait so where can I get one?

  • erikaworld