In your twenties, you’re still navigating the world of insecurities, as you approach your late twenties you definitely learn some lessons about life and start doing a bit of an edit of where you’re are and where you want to be, but your thirties really are the best years of your life.
This is the time when you come into your own when your confidence grows and you realize that you can be anything you set your mind to. You start to become more assertive, more aware of your own health and what your body needs and you know how to get what you want.
They say that when you reach your thirties, your life is only going uphill from here. And it’s true, you leave behind the ‘teenage’ phase and that awkward, in-between stage of your twenties. You are empowered, you know what you want, and you know how to get it. So here are a few life lessons you learn in your thirties, let us know if you agree.
1. You are responsible for your own happiness
Around 70% of your happiness can be generated by you (yes you!). We often make the mistake of thinking our outside environment causes us to be miserable and feel negative, but as you get older, you learn that your mindset makes all of the difference. When you actively make a choice to BE happier, you feel happier. And you will feel as though most days of your life are filled with joy. No matter what lemons life throws at you, you’ll spend your thirties making a good old gin and lemonade with them.
2. Everyone has an opinion
Your thirties are the time when you really relate to Bridget Jones, in that scene where everyone on the table is coupled up and asking her about impending babies. Everyone seems to have an opinion about what you’re too late or too early for, and by your mid-thirties, you will learn to let it go and realize that the only opinion that counts is your own. You’ll do what makes you happy and do things when they feel right, not when others say you should.
3. You can achieve anything you put your mind to
In your twenties, you spend a lot of time setting and smashing goals. By the time you’re thirty, you’ve most likely figured out where your boundaries lie and where your strengths are hidden. Sure, you’ve probably made a lot of mistakes along the way, but you also learned from them, making you better at making things happen as you hit your thirties and beyond. You’ll realize that anything you put your mind to can be achieved with a bit of dedication, which really opens up a whole world of opportunities.
4. Confidence is everything
Once you leave that insecure landscape of your twenties, you realize that confidence is mostly faked and becomes real with practice. You realize that what most people you admire have in common is the confidence they have in what they say. It’s true, you learn that if you are confident in your own abilities, and in your own knowledge, people will start to have confidence in you, too. So no matter what it is, hold your head proud and be confident.
5. It’s not about what you surround yourself with, but who
Your thirties are less about material things and more about experiences and moments. You come to realize that it’s so nice to be able to get yourself materialistic gifts, but the real joy comes from the people you spend your time with. Friends, family, and colleagues become more important to you as you grow and develop these relationships.
6. Your aspirations aren’t just your career
A realization that comes to you in your late twenties will stay with you throughout your thirties. Often we think ambition means just a career, but there are other things outside of your work that you might want to do. You might want to write a bestseller, start a side business, or have ambitions to open a local store in your town. You shouldn’t let these ambitious wither and die just because you’re secure in your career. Life is about doing what makes you uncomfortable.
7. You need to give back to those you love
As you get older you start to appreciate the things that other people have done for you. You see the importance of giving back to those you care about and showing gratitude for the things that you’ve received over the years. You start to empathize with your parents more, seeing what they have gone through to get to where they are. You even recognize the little ways you start to become them, which isn’t as unwelcome as you’d once thought!
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