8 Things To Know About Dating An Independent Girl


We’re not the women waiting for the husbands to come home anymore. We’ve had centuries fading behind the man, and have come too far in our independence to go back being dependant now. We may be career driven, but that doesn’t mean to say we’re not boy crazy. But with guys not understanding how to handle a woman who is independent, we’re settling into the Bridget Jones lifestyle and holding out for Mark Darcy. So, here’s what you need to know about dating an independent girl, and why it’s not so bad:

1. She likes to be alone too y’know

Today alone, we’ve had to deal with wolf whistles and a workload that’s taller than we are in heels. When we get home don’t be concerned when we want some quiet time to ourselves. We’re not trying to lose a guy in ten days, we just want alone time like everyone else.

2. Let her get her own shit together

We don’t need to rely on a guy to fix our problems. Hell, we’ve never relyed on a guy to help us get our careers, so we don’t need one to start spieling out advice. We’re powerful women, so recognize us as this!

3. She can pay her own way

Don’t dub us as extreme feminists because we like to split the bill. We’re not asserting dominance, we can just look after ourselves. Overwhelming us with expensive gifts can be nice, but we don’t need them, we’re the ones who fork out sixty dollars for moisturizer every other month!

4. Her career isn’t a hobby

The careers we’re working so hard for isn’t a hobby that we will give up when we’re married. We’re working hard to be successful in our own right. Men take their careers so seriously, why are we not allowed to do the same?

5. We choose you

Our plan isn’t about getting married to any suitable guy that just plods along. We’re successful and if we end up as spinsters, we’re not overly concerned. We build our relationships on guys we actually like.

6. She has her own ways of handling things

We’ve fought so hard to be recognized as who we are, we’ve been through some tough times, so don’t feel disheartened if we don’t take your advice to approach a certain topic your way. We’re stubborn like that, so let us try and work it out first.

7. She doesn’t want to mother before she’s a mother

We have to focus on making sure our own shit is together. We want someone who can take care of themselves, who can help themselves. We’re independent because we know how to take care ourselves, we don’t want to lose that to any man.

8. We want to be loved

Just because we like our own space and don’t need molly cuddling, doesn’t mean to say that we don’t like affection and crave it. We’re human after all, we want to be cherished, accepted for who we are and loved for it. Hug, please!


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  • Jessica Wen

    Haha this is such a great post, I feel like being independent is the best part of being a woman nowadays – and no man is going to take that away from me ;)

  • Lauren Gayfer

    Love this post! Laughed the whole time reading it because it is so relatable…
    Lauren x

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  • Ramona

    This is ridiculously true! People look at me like I’m crazy when I say that marriage isn’t a priority for me. There’s nothing wrong with a woman putting her dreams and career first. We weren’t born on this planet to devote our lives to men or become baby makers, we were born with a purpose and to follow our dreams!


  • Annie

    independent girls/women are at ease with who they are, they are powerful and confident. they do not lose themselves in men, they are interdepdendent, not codependent.

  • Caroline Vass

    This is so true, and this is like it always has been for men. Women are just getting caught up. However when men have been this way, women just had to accept it. But now the tables have turned. Women now have the financial and emotional independence!

  • dreamofadventures

    Yes to all of the above =o) Especially #6 =o)