We are loving the amount of empowered female celebrities speaking up at the moment. Yesterday, we chronicled the argument between the Kardashians and Chloe Moretz, which was pretty sad actually, women shouldn’t fight each other based on their choices.
So today when I read Emily Ratajkowski’s piece in Glamour, I was freshly inspired. Like many of us, I wasn’t too sure I liked the video for Blurred lines, I thought it was kind of gross and objectifying. I wasn’t even sure I liked Emily because I saw her everywhere and formed my own opinion of her. But that’s stupid, and learning more about her makes me like her even more. Here are our favorite parts from her open letter.
Emily talks about how speaking up for her favorite candidate Bernie Sanders got her labelled as an ‘attention whore’, with many people telling her because they had seen her naked there was no way she had a political mind.
“I realized then that I’ve been called an attention whore so often that I had almost gotten used to it. And as women we are accused of seeking attention more than men are, whether for speaking out politically, as I did, for dressing a certain way, or for even posting a selfie. Our culture has a double standard that runs so deep, many women have actually built up an automatic defense—attempting to be a step ahead of potential critics by making sure we have “real” reasons for anything we say or do.”
Then she goes on to address the inequalities between men and women in terms of ‘attention seeking’, something lots of us have internalized and never really think twice about.
“I see it all the time, particularly when my girlfriends are getting ready to go out. They encounter this moment when they think, I don’t want to look like I tried too hard. They don’t want to be seen as desperate or vain. But my guy friends don’t think twice about whether this shirt or that cologne will make them seem attention seeking. The truth is that both groups want to be noticed. Yet we view a man’s desire for attention as a natural instinct; with a woman, we label her a narcissist.”
She compares Madonna and Mick Jagger, who get different reactions for doing the same thing, and talks about the reaction to Karina Vetrano’s murder in August. She was murdered while jogging, but somehow people blamed her for ‘putting herself out there’.
“It’s absurd to think that desire for attention doesn’t drive both women and men. Why are women scrutinized for it more, then? And if a woman dresses up because she does want attention, male or otherwise, does that make her guilty of something? Or less “serious”? Our society doesn’t question men’s motivations for taking their shirt off, or shaving, or talking about politics—nor should it. Wanting attention is genderless. It’s human.”
It’s safe to say we have no doubts about whether we like Emily now. We love her.
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