Ideally, when you are making a big decision or a life changing event happens you have the full backing of family and friends. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. There are times when family and friends are against some plans. Perhaps it’s a new job, a move overseas or a new college course. This can be very difficult to handle. When discontent is so close to home it can be very tough to manage.
To try and deal with it to the best of your ability the first question you need to ask yourself is why are they reacting this way? Resolving this crucial point will be the key to managing this awkward situation!
1. They have your best interests at heart
More often than not any lack of understanding could be because those closest to you have your best interests at heart. They may be worried you are making an ill-judged move and want to express their concerns to you. If this is the situation you find yourself in, it is our advice is to deal with it head on. Talk to them and get to the bottom of their potential concerns. Hopefully, the issue can be resolved quickly.
2. They might be jealous
Things get tricky when it’s clear your best interests aren’t the reason for the lack of support. It’s a sad fact, but people can get really jealous. Others succeeding and striving to get ahead can be a cause of some harsh self-reflection. People may not always like what they see especially if a friend or family member is on the road to achieving great things.
This is a very delicate situation and must be handled with extreme care. Those acting this way simply may not see the extent of their behaviour. They may become embarrassed when it is pointed out to them. Out advice is to be brave and stand up for what you believe in, but be sensitive to your loved ones feelings, too.
3. They might be right
It can be hard to accept, but an unsupportive loved one can be acting in that manner for a very legitimate reason. When we have our eyes focused on a specific goal it can be impossible to look objectively at it. Perhaps we are working much too hard, our dating choices are horrendous or our spending habits are out of control. A friend who only wants the best for you is a worthy ally to have hold on to them!
4. You know what’s best for you
If you have thought long and hard about your decision and despite this are still getting grief from those who are supposed to care for you, then take strength from the fact that you are not the first person to face this problem. We promise you won’t be the last. It’s a hard situation to manage but stay strong and most importantly stay true to yourself. It is your life and your dreams. They are definitely worth fighting for.
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