You are the only one of your colleagues that went to the event, so here you are, standing by yourself with a drink in your hand and no one to talk to. Everyone seems to have found someone to have a nice chat with and jumping into a conversation that has already started (remember Bridget Jones trying that one? Very painful!) is not your strongest suit.
You don’t feel like being the loner for the rest of the night, so while you are glancing around the room full of people you notice that you are not the only one who hasn’t found someone to talk to yet. You walk up to the person while you are thinking how am I going to handle this; how am I going to initially engage with this person, how am I going to pick a suitable and sustainable topic. With a million and one thoughts that are now running through your head, try to remember these simple steps:
#1 – Make a compliment
‘Love your necklace’, ‘I like your top’, making a compliment is always a good way to start a conversation. Everyone loves to receive a compliment, it will immediately break the ice and it shows that you have paid attention to detail. This way, you have opened the conversation in a positive manner, whilst putting the other person at ease and feel more comfortable which allows you to have an enjoyable conversation.
#2 – Ask a question
Not a ‘yes or no’ question, but an open question. This allows the other person to share knowledge or to tell a story. Questions like, ‘how did you end up at this event’ or ‘what do you do’ are the most common and easy, but always good, conversation starters.
#3 – Make a funny comment
Probably a difficult one for most of the people, but making a funny comment can be a real killer conversation starter. Just like making a compliment, a funny comment breaks the ice and allows you to ask a question, which will get the conversation really started.
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#4 – Find a common ground
Once you started the conversation, try to find a common ground. This always will keep a conversation going and makes it more interesting for the both of you. Exchanging business cards is mostly the result of having found a common ground, where you can be of interest to each other.
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