an Gogh once said, “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” Ever since I heard this, I decided I would live by it.
I would silence the negative critique in my head and just go for it. Each and every one of us has a voice inside our head, whether we like to openly admit that or not. I think we can all understand that these voices can sometimes be louder than our own. And this can make it easy to give in.
There isn’t one person I’ve ever met who hasn’t given over to these negative voices at least once in their life. It’s something we all do in our weakest moments, but I’d like to take a moment and stop you and to tell you to just stop. Take a look at what’s around you, take a look at where you are. You’re here. Reading this. You are strong and fighting off those negative voices that like to think they know you. Read more about what to do with your first hour of work to be more positive and productive here.
This is my journey. How these voices tried and failed to define me. How I still fight with them daily and still overcome them seconds later. They’re not something you can be rid of completely, but they are something you can control. And it begins with believing, believing in yourself. That’s where it began for me.
The voice that told me I wasn’t good enough
The voice in your head seems pretty believable when there are even people in the real world who tell you that you’re not good enough. Whether it’s a teacher, your boss, your family – it doesn’t make it hurt any less.
I hadn’t heard this a lot growing up. But sometimes people can make you feel this way without even saying a word. You can only have heard this once, and it will leave something inside of you, which likes to show up when you have a moment of insecurity when you can’t do something right.
It’s insecurity; you feel this way because you fear you’re not good enough. If I’m not good enough, then I shouldn’t be spending my time crying about it, instead, I need to be working on it so I eliminate weaknesses and only leave myself with strengths. You need to become a more positive person, find out how to here.
I tell myself I am good enough; I wouldn’t be here in the first place if I wasn’t. We all have moments of doubt, we are all human, but we’re also powerful, which means you have the power to be who you dream to be.
The voice that told me I couldn’t
Can’t is a word I don’t like to use very often. In fact, we try to ban it in the office. The word can’t already holds you back before you even try. I believe that anything is possible, there’s always a solution, and giving up isn’t one of them.
I know too well that can’t is an easy word to fall on. Because we say it in times of such intensity when we feel we can do no more. But as long as you remain passionate, you will always find a way to overcome that voice that wants to keep you in a box. Can’t comes from a fear of pushing yourself, learn how to overcome those fears here.
When you’re challenged, pushed to your limit and stuck, it’s easy to say to yourself that you’re not good enough. That’s the easy thing to do. It’s easy to rely on ‘can’t’. You ‘can’t’ do one more squat, you ‘can’t’ work one more hour, you ‘can’t’. But you actually can.
In times when everything feels impossible, I allow myself to freak out for five seconds. Snap my fingers, and come back into the game. I solve the problems, and never rely on the word ‘can’t. Remember, you have a brain that’s the product of 3.8 billions years of evolutionary success, so use it!
The voice that told me to quit
I have a little story to tell you. I had given up a good paying job because it made me extremely happy, to the point I would leave crying every day. At the point in my life, the only voice that I had was the one in my head. I still got up every day at six am seven days a week. I didn’t miss a day. I was inspired and motivated by other successful women, which kept me going. By inspired by how these successful women start their mornings.
The place where I worked didn’t employ a lot of very nice people. I was constantly undermined, made a mockery of and tested. Ever get that feeling when you walk into a room and everyone was just talking about you? That’s how it was everywhere I went. It got so bad I even began overheating these conversations.
I didn’t miss one day. Because the difference between them and me was that I’m a strong woman, and I don’t give up because I’m pushed out, or a voice in my head screams at me to leave. I have a dream. I’m here for a reason.
Because the scary part about this story is that if I did give up, I wouldn’t have the seat I’m sat in right now. I wouldn’t have begun to take the journey I’m currently on. Without those bad experiences, I wouldn’t be as happy as I am now.
That’s why no matter what, your voice has to be louder because it’s the only one that matters. No one else can hear the same voice as you do, it has no credibility, it has no source. It can only do you damage because it’s your own voice that knows every tiny insecurity you have. It’s fear, and fear is something made up. It’s something we create. And remember the creator has the power to destroy too.
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