Dealing With Rejection: 4 Tips On How To Turn It All Around

Rejection, we all hate it, we all fear it, but unfortunately we all have to deal with it in life, some time or another. Whether it is in your personal or professional life, rejection is one of those ego-reducing emotions that can make us feel angry, insecure and unwanted.

Although rejection can be really painful, if you understand the concept of rejection and how to deal with it, it will help you to view it as a necessary and even positive element in life. This way you will be able to overcome the negative feelings, turn these into positives and use it to your benefit to create a stronger and more powerful you.

So when you get rejected, just keep these 4 elements in mind and you will be able to turn it all around:

1 – It Is Not Personal
The main reason why rejection can be so hurtful is because we are emotionally attached to the person we got rejected by (or the job we really wanted to have). If there were no emotions involved, we would not really care about the fact that we got ‘rejected’.

Because we take it personally, we tend to blame ourselves for what happened and think that there must be something wrong with us in order for someone to reject us. Most of the times, it has absolutely nothing to do with us and the person who rejected us has totally other reasons why.

Always remember that you never fully know what someone else is thinking and therefore you can’t interpret why they rejected you.

2 – It Doesn’t Define Who You Are
Always know your worth, what you stand for and who you are. Most of us experience a negative feeling towards ourselves and think that, like mentioned in #1, the rejection defines us as a person. Luckily it absolutely does not and it happens to the best of us.

Next time you get rejected, think of all your positive characteristics, your talents and amazing things you have established and done.

#3 – Everything happens for a reason
Always keep in mind that there probably is a reason why you got rejected. It may take time before you see and why, but in the end you will understand why it went the way it went and sometimes even be happy you got rejected.

#4 – Use it for a better you
Life rises and falls with your attitude towards things and how you act upon it. If you see rejection as an opportunity to learn from your experience and reflect on yourself, rejection will become a valuable aspect in your life and you will learn how to grow from it.


  • Becca

    Love this post, made me feel better about my life haha!

    Becca xx

  • Chloe

    I’m currently applying for internships and suffering my first ever rejections. Its been really hard to deal with despite reasoning being that I am “too experienced” so this post has been a great help! x

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  • Amanda Winchester

    I love this piece so much! Instantly made me feel better. Especially the advice on not to take things personally. Thank you so much xxx

    Amanda Winchester ♥ | AmandaSays

  • Holly

    Oh career girl daily, how I love all your posts! Even an article like this I love. Also the picture of Bridget Jones is so well suited. Holly x

  • Georgia

    Amazing tips, really helpful for someone who is trying to get their first job. :) x

  • Abriel

    Awesome post! Definitely great advice for anyone dealing with rejection!

  • Isabelle R

    Excellent post! It helps wherever the rejection comes from ( family, husband, friends, colleagues whoever) Thank you for that! xx

  • Suzy

    I’ve dealt with rejection too many times to remember (I’m an author) but I refused to let it affect me. Ok, I admit that it did get to me at the beginning but after a while I realised it was actually making me stronger. Now, I self publish my books and I’ve sold thousands! Awesome post :D

  • Alice

    Thank you so much for this post. Rejection is scary and as Suzy mentioned – something you have to deal with a lot as a writer, so finding my feet with journalism can be super scary. Fab stuff. x

  • Lauren

    Perfect source of empowerment for today, use every experience to build a better you

    Lauren x
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  • Elizabeth Rebecca

    I love this post – thanks for sharing.

    Lizzie Dripping

  • Mohinder Verma

    This is wonderful and even it is mainly for girls or around girls but still I love to read it and learnt few tips and tricks for making a positive attitude even in odd time.

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful post.

  • Kiran

    Lovely post, so happy I came across this. I just applied for a bunch of jobs and even though it is too soon for a response just yet, I still feel that dread gather a tiny bit in my stomach, almost as if I am anticipating/expecting rejection before anything has really happened. I think remembering it isn’t personal is one of the most important things because if you take it personally it can just shatter your self-determination. Thank you for the post!

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  • Alexis

    I’d take it personal in order to learn from it to improve and evolve. So, #1 contradicts #4.
    But I totally agree with #2 and #3.
    xx Alexis
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  • Marie @ Business of Blooming

    I think it’s so important to not place your personal self-worth value on rejection. You’re still worthy, no matter what!

  • Wanda

    Pretty much.every “no” always gives way to an even better “yes” in the future. As a born-again Christian, I wholeheartedly believe that #3 is often the case: Everything happens for a reason and for the good. No, you don’t see it immediately, but if you keep on living and looking forward…you’ll get to that safe place where you can confidently look back over your life and see those catastrophic events that you were spared.

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