There is no big secret on how to get your life back on track when you feel like you’ve fallen off of it. When you’ve started January with the best intentions, set yourself up with new habits, big shiny fresh goals, and showed up as often as you can, you’re inevitably going to have a day, a week, or even a month when you fall off the good girl horse.
Maybe you’ve ditched the healthy eating, slobbed out on the couch instead of going to the gym, stopped writing your book, or just can’t find the motivation to smash those goals any more. Now you’re wondering how to get your life back on track and be the woman that 2020 promised you you’d be. Well, don’t worry, read this and get yourself back in the game.
Schedule your habits into your life.
So you want to get back on track with writing your book/going to the gym/eating healthily? Well, stop waiting. Now is when it’s happening. Sit down, clear your schedule and make it happen. Do you need to go for a run around the block? Dig out your gym wear? Make a healthy eating plan for yourself? Or simply remove distractions and do the thing you want to do.
Not all your goals will fit into a specific time frame, but you should be able to build life around them. So you want to practice yoga every day? Do it in the morning before you brush your teeth.
Do you want to write that book? 30 mins every evening while your dinner is in the oven.
Soon isn’t good enough. Soon isn’t quantifiable. It’s not a time or a place. It’s vague.
Remove soon from your life. If someone asks you when you’re going to do something, say a time and a place. Be specific. You’ll find it helps you stay accountable.
Stick to your schedule, even in small ways.
When you fall off your schedule, it’s not a big deal. The problem is the guilt that comes with it usually stops you from getting back on it at all. Missing one workout, or skipping one day, is not going to set you back.
It’s the psychological torture you put yourself through that stops you from staying on track.
But you can stay on track, even if you’re not doing your full effort. If you miss a workout at the gym, do a 30-minute jog at home. If you miss writing a chapter of your book, write a paragraph instead. If you don’t have time for a vacation, go on a mini-break over the weekend.
Find a way to stick to the schedule, no matter how small it is.
Make a friend who expects something from you.
Think of a time when you were part of a Bootcamp, or working with a trainer. You showed up right? And when you did, you pushed yourself damn hard. Because you have someone standing over you.
Making friends that are in the same boat as you will help you stay on top. Go to one certain trainer at Bootcamp who expects to see you.
Make friends with someone who trains at the same time as you, join a group of writers. It’s the people around you that will help you stay on top.
Make progress, not excuses.
So you need to stop focusing on what you can’t achieve, or what you don’t have, and instead work with what you do.
If you slip up, don’t obsess over it. If you don’t have the money or time to do x y z, who cares? Find a different way to get the same results.
Everyone starts in the same place. A winner will take the tools they have and turn them into the results they want to see. Circumstances will never hold you back, it’s your mindset that will make the difference.
And no, it’s not easy. But it will happen if you choose to make progress, not excuses.