There is nothing better than being yourself. However, when the stakes are high, such as a job interview or meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, first impressions count. Having a few psychological tricks up your sleeve can’t hurt, so take note. Aside from smiling, being friendly and giving compliments— these are psychologically proven ways that can help to make that favorable impression in a snap.
1. Know your values
By emphasizing the values you share with your interviewer or new friends, the more they’ll like you, so make sure to find common ground! This is known as the similarity-attraction effect and is the idea that we are attracted to those similar to ourselves. We all know the saying ‘birds of a feather, flock together!’
2. Share your dislikes
Even emphasizing your shared dislikes can help win over those you wanted to get on the good side of. There is even a dating app that matches people on their shared dislikes! By having similar dislikes this makes people feel like you are both on the same page as each other, in the same way as sharing similar likes.3
3. Do your research
Get to know the object of your interest as much as possible ahead of time, a good old facebook stalk can do wonders! Then emphasize your shared interests when meeting in person, whether it’d be mutual love for a band or a movie. You will have more to talk about and the conversation will flow more naturally, rather than just awkward silences. But also if you’re seeking a new job, impress your future employer with knowledge of the company, the position, and the needed skills. Practice how you want to appear in front of a mirror, cool and confident or vibrant and full of life.
4. Copy them!
When talking to someone, try copying their body language, gestures, and facial expressions. This strategy is called mirroring and involves subtly mimicking the other person’s behavior. In a research experiment, participants were more likely to say that they liked their partner more when they had mimicked their behavior. However, you don’t want to blindly follow all their moves- judge the situation, if they are talking with excitement on their face mimic that emotion.
5. Compliment other people
People will associate the adjectives you use to describe other people with your personality. This phenomenon is called spontaneous trait transference. Think of how you want to come across and see that in other people. Supposedly, if a person gossips about someone else, the listener will also think bad about the gossip! So if you don’t have anything nice to say then its best to remained tight lipped! Remember, you are who you surround yourself with!
What are your go-to moves when meeting someone for the first time?
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