Victoria Beckham was Vogue’s cover star for the October issue, and she looks amazing. We often look to her as an example of a woman who’s got her shit together, she never seems to have insecurities, she dresses immaculately, is an amazing business woman and has a great and supportive family. But we know that things aren’t always as effortless as they seem.
Victoria penned an open letter to her 18-year-old self, and it’s amazing. It’s so inspiring to see a powerful woman allowing herself to be young, to make mistakes, to have fun. To get drunk and meet her soul mate, and reflect on it.
“You are not the prettiest, or the thinnest, or the best at dancing at the Laine Theatre Arts college. You have never properly fitted in, although you are sharing your Surrey school digs with really nice girls. You have bad acne. You think the principal has put you at the back of the end-of-year show (in a humiliatingly bright purple Lycra leotard) because you are too plump to go at the front. (This may or may not be true.)”
She writes to herself with an openness and authenticity we can all relate to. Who hasn’t looked back and wanted to give ourselves a good talking to? It’s true that many of us suffer with insecurities and anxieties that in ten years time will have melted away.
“You will turn up at awards ceremonies resembling a drag queen. But I look back at you and smile. It will add interest to your life to go from one extreme to another. I love the fact that you will feel free to express yourself. Fashion will take on added stature one day, but try not to be stifled by it. You will learn, as you mature, to swap heels for Stan Smith trainers, minidresses for crisp white shirts. And you will never be one of those people who just roll out of bed.”
It’s actually really sweet to see Victoria look back on her younger self and smile, people criticized her for the way she dressed but she was free to express herself and didn’t mind. And even though Victoria learned with age what works and what is chic, she doesn’t regret the crazy choices she made.
Finally, on her relationship with David Beckham, she says:
“Love at first sight does exist. It will happen to you in the Manchester United players’ lounge – although you will get a little drunk, so exact details are hazy. While the other football players stand at the bar drinking with their mates, you will see David standing aside with his family. (He’s not even in the first team at this stage – you are the famous one.) And he has such a cute smile. You, too, are close to your family, and you will think how similar he feels to you. He’s going to ask for your number. (He still has the London-to-Manchester plane ticket on which you wrote it.)”
That little detail is so cute. And it’s true that we don’t know what’s going to happen in our future, or what we will look back on when we’re older and want to tell our younger selves about. I personally think this letter is really inspiring. It shows just how far Victoria has come, and how she has made peace with her younger self. We should all write letters to our 18-year-old selves. I think the results would be enlightening.