Why It’s OK To Be Twenty-Something And Still Not Know What To Do With Your Life




There comes a moment in our life when we start questioning ourselves and the direction towards which our choices are taking us. It usually coincides with a loss of confidence and a deep feeling of instability. Most of the people I know have been through this. And those who haven’t, well consider yourself to be some lucky gals.

The first semester of my last year of University was definitely one I will always remember. Why? Simply because I was 21 and I was going through the phase I described right above. I felt lost, my degree was about to finish and I was unsure that I wanted to turn that field of study into a lifelong career. My parents couldn’t really do much, apart from trying to reassure me and telling me that eventually everything will work out. As a stubborn Taurus, I didn’t believe their words. I went into a mild depression, I started to go out less and less and I basically spent my days self-pitying.

It was right when I reached rock bottom that I finally understood what my parents truly meant. It is okay to feel unsure about what career to pursue. It would actually be quite worrying if we never questioned our choices. And after all, the career decision is probably one of the biggest decisions we will ever make, so it’s fine to think twice about it.

Some people are lucky enough to land their dream job shortly after graduation (if not before!) and already know where the path they are following is going to take them. But if you are not one of those lucky gals then let me tell you something I wish I told myself a few months ago: IT IS OKAY. As long as you don’t lose motivation and you keep working hard on your passions and interests, one day (which I am sure is pretty close) you will finally realize how you want to spend the rest of your working life.

Don’t let society pressure you too much. I believe that in order to decide what career to pursue you first need to know who you truly are. Therefore, take a gap year and travel the world, if you think that a break from all the city mess is what you need. Or find a job, which might be completely different from what you studied, so you discover skills you never thought you never had. But most importantly of all, don’t lose motivation and hope and keep a positive attitude.

As John Lennon said: “Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”


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Ludovica Tronci

Ludovica is a an Italian blogger based in London with an obsession for pandas. She hopes one day to make it big in the world of journalism. In the meantime you can find her in a cafe in Shoreditch or dreaming about Paris' boulevards.

  • Jen

    Yessss to the John Lennon quote. I’m 27 and still lost, but I’ve applied for my MFA in Creative Writing and start taking classes this fall so fingers crossed — I’m heading somewhere!


  • Chantel

    Great post!

  • Chloe Hayfield

    I can relate to this so much! at 24 I’m pretty lost with what to do next and where I want to be. It’s very comforting to read I’m not the only one. x

    Chloé Harriet

    • Mama Sow

      Same here even though it is better now. You don’t “look” that lost to me, you have an incredible fashion / make up / lifestyle blog and youtube channel. I read just yesterday an amazing article by Mark Manson, it was really eye opening (what we enjoy doing everyday is actually what we should just be doing …) – I encourage you to read it : http://markmanson.net/passion

      Mama sow

      • Chloe Hayfield

        Thank you! I read the article and it made so much sense to me :) x

        • Mama Sow

          My pleasure :)

  • Hannah Lucy

    Loved this!

    Hannah | Oh January

  • Camille Beygui

    This post is so reassuring ! I just turned 20 and I am sooo stressed with the future

  • Prerna Bhatt

    Totally relatable article! Thank you for sharing your story! :)


  • Renee Alexis Taladua

    Totally true! I’m 22 and I still don’t have any idea what I’d be in the future! But as you know what they say, just go on with the flow. Haha

    Renee | therenalexis.blogspot.com

  • Erin Henry (erinmayfitness)

    This is such a fabulous post. I had no idea what I wanted to do until I was about 25 ( 1 year ago). I feel as if I had forced myself into something before that I would have not ended up where I am now, doing somthing I am crazy passionate about!

  • LisaLDN

    I absolutely love this, and it speaks to me on every level there is! Thank you!

    — LisaLDN.com

  • Liz | Lipstick & Confetti

    I needed this today! Great post :)

    xo, Liz

  • Mama Sow

    I can totally relate with you on this one, thank you for sharing your experience in this :D Knowing thy self is I think the most important we also need to understand that we can’t really control our future / environment / others, letting go and “be water” like Bruce Lee said go with the flow while enjoy the road will help us to reach where we should be …

    If you struggle with finding your “life purpose” I encourage you to read this though provoking article by Mark Manson: http://markmanson.net/passion it was really eye opening for me .. :D


  • Lucy Lees

    What a positive post :) I suffer from anxieties myself, so very often I can feel somewhat insignificant, but you have to give yourself a hard talk and let yourself feel unsure!
    Life inside the Locket

  • Serena

    I love this! I agree with everything you said! I’m trying to find my path… I hope I will find it! x


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