The One Thing That Stops Women From Being Successful


On occasion I find myself needing an inspiring pep talk. This could be when I am getting into the shower, driving to work, or even winding down for the night.

Most recently I found myself listening to the “Reshma Saujani: Teach girls bravery, not perfection” TED Talk. I think we’ve talked about this one before, but once I started listening I loved it. I think it’s the perfect TED talk to listen to with 2017 approaching.

A couple of minutes in, Reshma states: Most girls are taught to avoid risk and failure. We’re taught to smile pretty, play it safe, get all A’s. Boys, on the other hand, are taught to play rough, swing high, crawl to the top of the monkey bars and then just jump off head first. And by the time they’re adults, whether they’re negotiating a raise or even asking someone out on a date, they’re habituated to take risk after risk. They’re rewarded for it” 



Fun fact about me: in grade school, I was at the top of my grade for our physical training test. I outdid almost every boy in my grade, and some in higher grades when it came to timed push-ups and sit-ups. I was more active than many of the boys too. While I was proud of myself for those accomplishments, I had a lot of my female peers think it was strange. Soon, I quit trying on our physical tests so that I could fit in. Now I can hardly do one push-up.

We all try to be perfect, and fit in wherever we can, and stop being brave and pushing our boundaries, and it can hinder our success!

This TED Talk resounded with me on so many levels. I give up quicker than I should – especially when it comes to my career. In fact, just recently I was thinking about a career change.

After listening to this TED Talk, I realized that somewhere along the line I forgot what it is to be brave. We need to start remembering what it is to be brave. To put ourselves out there and show our full potential.

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