Most of us struggle enough with the motivation to get through the gym doors without worrying that others will be judging our less than in shape bodies.
That’s what going to the gym is for, though, right. You go to work on the areas you’re unhappy with in a safe place. You might be intimidated by the other, fitter attendees, but there are always personal trainers and people on hand to help you feel comfortable.
I’ve never understood people who shame others when they’re actively trying to get in shape. Did you ever see the man who got fat-shamed for dancing his heart out? That was so disappointing. The result of that story? He got worldwide support and got to dance with a whole host of cool celebrities. That’s the kind of support we need to give to each other. Even the ‘fittest’ looking people in the gym struggle with certain areas.
Anyway, that said. Playboy model Dani Mathers has just been fired for taking a photograph of a naked woman at the gym and captioning it ‘If I can’t unsee this then you can’t either!’
I kind of understand the eye-averting shame when a confident naked woman of any age comes strutting into the changing rooms at the gym but that’s because I don’t know where to look. Not because I’m thinking about making fun of her. Dani’s Snapchat was inexcusable.
“Should never make light of another woman’s naked body,” Mathers tweeted in response and deleted the picture from her Snapchat. “I’m sorry for what I did…I need to take some time to myself now to reflect on why I did this horrible thing.”
Mathers also recorded a series of apology videos on Snapchat. But her ‘hand over mouth’ accompaniment snap shows that it was no ‘accident’. She has subsequently been fired.
— ♛~€unice Francois~♛ (@uni_eunni) July 16, 2016
— Debra Schenck (@DebSW1969) July 15, 2016
@DaniMathers it must be nice to be so perfect that you feel like you can publicly shame other bodies. Please educate yourself.
— ⚡️Tess Holliday⚡️ (@Tess_Holliday) July 14, 2016
Understandably, it has created a lot of outrage. Imagine if that was you, suddenly finding yourself the subject of the news because someone took a photo of you while you were completely naked. How awful. Dani released a statement addressing her actions on Snapchat:
“I just wanted to acknowledge a photo that I accidentally posted here on Snapchat earlier today and let you guys know that that was absolutely wrong, and not what I meant to do. I have chosen to do what I do for a living because I love the female body and I know that body shaming is wrong and that’s not what I’m about, that’s not the type of person that I am.
That photo was taken to be a personal conversation with a girlfriend, and because I am new to Snapchat, I really didn’t realize that I had posted it and that was a huge mistake.”
But she isn’t addressing the wider problem. Whether she meant to share it with her whole following or not, she still took the photo with the intention of sharing it, privately or otherwise. I don’t personally think she can say she loves the female body and that it was just a ‘mistake’ when she was bringing it into a conversation anyway. Most of us would never do that.
On the other hand, should we forgive and forget? Should we take her at her word that this was a genuine mistake and she will now work on the reasons why she did it? Before deleting her Twitter account she said: “I’m sorry for what I did… I need to take some time to myself now to reflect on why I did this horrible thing.”
I don’t think we need a witch hunt. We don’t need to spread more hate. In fact, we need to hold our hands up and celebrate every woman who struts their naked stuff wherever they are. You should know that you aren’t being judged, even for a ‘private’ conversation! Dani should take some time to find out who this woman is and sit down for a conversation with her.
Did you see this photo and the resulting fallout? What do you think about Dani?