How These Simple Steps Changed My Life For Good

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As 20-somethings, we always strive to be better, smarter and faster. You need to have your own startup or a dream job. You should travel around the world to exotic destinations and proudly show it off on Instagram and Snapchat. Don’t we all just envy the girls who have got their lives perfectly together?

I think we all recognize the pressure on our 25th birthday. That day changes EVERYTHING. Before, you were happy getting older, but that single day gives you a sudden realization: ‘Oh crap, I’m getting old.’ You just finished Uni,  you don’t have your dream job (yet!) or your dream house. That day you realize you’re close to the big 3-0.

And with that picture perfect goal in mind your race to success starts. I was convinced I could do everything. Working 80 hours per week, no time to socialize. ‘Hey, that’s what they call being ambitious‘ (at least that is what I was telling myself).

My friends just didn’t understand me. ‘Celina, you’ve got to enjoy life, I do understand your ambitions but life should be fun as well, Carpe Diem you know’.

As stubborn as I was I kept on going which led to anxiety attacks and a mild depression, which made me realize: Is it all worth it? Should life pass by, being a successful career girl because I wanted to accomplish everything before my 30th birthday?

At the beginning of this year, things got even worse; I got anxiety attacks every evening and during the day. I wasn’t able to work and thought I was actually losing my mind. What was happening with my body? Even when the doctors told me: ‘Celina, you’re stressed please take it easy.’ I didn’t believe them. How can I be stressed? I am doing a job I freaking love! At that point, there was no time for denial. I had to accept the fact I was overworked and was dealing with anxiety.

With that being said there were 2 two things I could do, take medication or change my lifestyle. Personally, I felt to really be in control of this situation it was time to change my lifestyle because I felt taking medications meant I wasn’t actually in control of what was happening.

Here are the steps I’ve taken to deal with my anxiety:

I DON’T WORK PAST 6 P.M.

Oh wait, isn’t it a sign of lack of ambition when you leave your job at 6 p.m.? In my opinion, it isn’t. Knowing that you have from 9 a.m. till 6 p.m. to plan your work for the entire day makes you more productive. At 6 p.m. I shut down my computer and I am not allowed to do any more work. Things can’t wait until the day after.

I GO TO BED EVERY NIGHT AT 10 P.M.

Yes, sounds a bit boring right? But creating structure for yourself is extremely important. I go to bed at 10 p.m. and wake up at 6 a.m. for my daily workout. I go for a run, yoga, meditation or whatever I feel up to that week. It helps me to relax and limits my anxiety attacks

I DON’T SKIP BREAKFAST

I’ve figured I am so much more productive when I take the time to prepare myself a proper breakfast. I can focus better and I have more energy. I love to have boiled eggs with some fresh juice. My new addiction is breakfast meetings. It’s so refreshing to go out for breakfast with a colleague and talk about our editorial calendar.

F*CK WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE THINKS

You know we’re  big fans of the book the life-changing magic of not giving a f*ck. Well, this book is the best thing I’ve ever read.  Stop caring too much about what other people think, just enjoy your life and do what you love.

THERE ACTUALLY IS LIFE AFTER 30

This is extremely important. Remember what I said earlier about my 25th bday? I felt like I only had 5 years left. I’m almost 28 and instead counting down the days until my 30th birthday, I am enjoying every single year and am proud of the woman I’ve become!

 

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  • Prerna Bhatt

    Aah amazing post! Some great realistic tips to lead a sane life :P

    http://www.prerislife.com

  • D

    Hi Celina! Your words are so inspiring! I am going through something similar dealing with anxiety and it’s getting really really hard sometimes, but I know I am not giving up! Could you, please, share more on this topic? Or if it’s possible, can I get in touch with you? I’d really like to hear more from you, because you are truly encouraging! Thanks in advance!

  • Yvonne Ashon

    Very good tips, simple but life changing. I need to start going to bed early.
    http://www.yvesofstyle.com

  • Jen

    Heck. Yes. SO much yes here. I’m (less than) 6 months away from turning 28 and the pressures of 30 can be overwhelming, but they aren’t real! Brava girl!
    http://decoratethesoul.blogspot.com/

  • dreamofadventures

    Yes to all! I love your spirit =o) During university I would get overly stressed and also have anxiety and panic attacks. Once I graduated I found a job that didn’t have me working crazy hours, and have started practicing yoga and going for runs that help.

    http://dreamofadventures.blogspot.com/

  • Ronny Cheung

    in my opinion, i think the real enjoyable life start after 30. that means in your 20s, you are struggling and testing different ways of life to know what you want and don’t want your life to be.

  • Erin Henry (erinmayfitness)

    Another post that I feel like dropped into my lap at the perfect time. I am 26 but just finished uni and was already feeling the pressure of “why have I not made it yet”! There is plenty of time, thank you for reminding me of that.

    Erin xx
    http://www.erinmayfitness.com

  • Sophiey Phillips

    This is exactly what I need. Lately, I have been stressing a lot about what people say about me, when people doubting me 😔 Thank you ❤️

    thejaneiskandar.wordpress.com

  • Lucie

    Thanks for this article. It’s really encouraging. :-)

    http://www.inbluebox.wordpress.com

  • Maryanne Paul

    Here is the best advice. Life is best at 40 and beyond, it takes you that long to figure it all out, no matter who you are. Enjoy this time. Go through your day knowing these are your discovery years and take each moment with wonder and dump the anxiety, your generation clings to that word, don’t call it yours, let that beast go, and life is freaking fantastic after 40. And as I hit 50 this year, even better! Just make excellent financial choices, no matter how much you make, and don’t marry an idiot.

    • Maryanne Paul

      PS…I may take your 10 pm bedtime advice! Love your article.

    • Leah Sophia

      exactly so! despite what else may or may not happen, life abounds after 40.

  • Elishia Chave

    Loved this post!! ‘Stop caring about what people think of you’ is THE best advice. I was never given that advice, but I started acting on it at 26 (it should have been way earlier). I’m almost 28 and completely starting over… In a new country… 30 still scares me when I have no idea what I’m doing, but hey, I’m working on it!!

    http://www.englishgirlinnewyork.org

    • Leah Sophia

      on the other hand, I care VERY much what people think of me. As a Harvard-educated theologian, I need to present myself and present information about myself and all my credentials in a non-threatening manner or the participation I hope for never will happen.

      • Elishia Chave

        I totally get that! It’s probably better explained if I say that I aim to be the best I can be, in a way that I respect and I am proud of, but it’s important to remember that I can’t please everyone and when that moment inevitably comes, it’s important not to dwell on the negativity that people can bring :)

  • Dinel

    I think there is a lot of pressure in general, about age and expectations of certain milestones, and with time and experiences you get to this point of peace with yourself. Also, I think there is this sort of “bottom line” situation that happens to a lot of us, that makes you rethink your life, what you truly want and your lifestyle, and start working on your happiness and well being. Great post! :)

  • Arianna

    I found your article really motivating and interesting. I love reading the path you have gone through, how you changed and started caring more about yourself and less about what everyone else thinks!

    Aria

    https://pandaonavespa.wordpress.com/welcome/

  • Maxabella

    Life is actually just beginning at 30. You’ll see!

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