This confidence trick is all you need to feel assured in any situation. Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud. Or so the quote goes. But it’s often easier said than done to embrace confidence and walk into a room with your head held high. My confidence has grown massively in the past few years thanks to all the terrifying things I’ve thrown myself into. Walking into rooms where I don’t know anybody, doing speeches for a full room. It’s scary at first, but it really helps you grow.
But how do you push yourself to build your confidence? It can be so easy to stay in our comfort zone, I swear by this sixty-second trick to network and build my self-confidence.
The sixty-second trick
Give yourself exactly one minute to meet someone new, but do it quickly before anxiety creeps up and you talk yourself out of it. Have you ever noticed that while you’re having conversations with new people you’re thinking about the tone of your voice and the way you hold yourself instead of focusing on what they’re saying? Yes, this confidence trick is easy!
Snap out of it! Bring yourself into the conversation and focus solely on what the person you’ve introduced yourself to is saying. When you leave that conversation, write down three things you remember about them, whether it’s in your phone or on a notepad later on. This will help you get better at networking, and remember your conversations if you ever meet again.
1. Start with a genuine compliment
Walking up to someone you don’t know can be a little intimidating, but I like to start with a compliment. It’s so much easier to start a conversation with someone if you ask them where they got their shoes from first, then slide in your introduction after they reply.
As you get more comfortable with the sixty-second technique, you might even apply it to everyday life. Try it in a coffee shop full of strangers, or while you’re out and about shopping. Even if you just give them a compliment and be on your merry way, the way you make someone else feel will give you a huge boost of confidence.
2. Be uncomfortable
Everybody in the world gets nervous, and a little awkward meeting new people. It’s normal. The way to overcome it is to challenge yourself and make yourself uncomfortable. The more you do it, the easier it will become, and the more confidence you will have.
Start small, introducing yourself to new people is a good step, then grow into bigger acts of confidence. Speaking in a room full of people, delivering a presentation, taking control of a meeting, all of those acts come from having the strength to push yourself into things that make you uncomfortable. You’ll be seriously confident in no time!