What to Do If You’re in a Quarter Life Crisis


Don’t sweat it – the quarter life crisis is a real thing. I think that, up until recently, there was a lot of stigma surrounding the term from older adults looking at us and saying, “They think they have it so bad! Just wait till they’re our age and they find out what the real world is like. Then they’ll have a crisis.

” Paul Angone of “All Grown Up” sums it up perfectly: “you’re emerging into adulthood, and in the process, feel like you’re getting the insides ripped out of you like crab legs at a Las Vegas buffet.” Well said, Paul, well said. But with the way society is these days, forcing us to grow up quicker, to find our way sooner, to be a certain way when we haven’t exactly discovered our true selves first, the idea of a quarter life crisis is a valid issue. You’re not alone!

I’m no expert, but I have had some major breakdowns of my own and hopefully some of the lessons I’ve learned might help.


Before anything else, accept where you are in life. You’re in a slump, so what? You’ve got to have the lows to appreciate the highs. Wallowing away in the fact that you’re suffering a quarter life crisis will only make you feel worse and take time away from you lifting yourself back up.


Find a mentor who is not related to you. When I’m going through a hard time, I always call my mom immediately, but to tell you the truth, she’s so invested in me – her only daughter – that she can’t evaluate my situation without bias. Find somebody you admire who will talk to you with a clear perspective, somebody who is close enough to you that you feel comfortable confiding in but distant enough that your decisions won’t affect them personally.


Pick one thing that is bothering you most about your life and change it. This could be something tiny, like being in an argument with your best friend or something major, like wanting to change jobs. Eliminating one negative aspect of your life will bring immediate relief.


Make a list of what you could improve about yourself. Acknowledge your flaws and your vices, your hurdles and weak points. Only then can they be tackled.


Take a risk. Get out of your comfort zone because it’s clearly not doing you any good right now. You won’t get anywhere new if you keep doing what you’ve always done. In a crisis, you have nothing to lose, so just go for it and don’t regret your decision to move forward!

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Don’t let your short-term vision compromise your long-term vision. It will not last forever so try to think as calmly and as rationally as you can in the moment. Don’t let your thoughts carry you away. Breathe. This too shall pass.

Fill up the tank for a spontaneous road trip. Get a tattoo. Whatever floats your boat. But no matter what you decide, just keep swimmin’.

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  1. Everyone’s path is different and if it wasn’t what a boring world we’d live in! Thanks for sharing.

    Mandie form yellowdogpinkpig.com

  2. Thank you so much for this! I have been struggling with my ‘quarter-life crisis’ for the past year. I’m less than a month away from d-day and found your post to be really comforting. Most people over the age of 30 are less than understanding so it’s really nice to see that we are all in this together.

    -Samantha Irene

  3. This is a great article! I’m really glad that more people are beginning to accept the fact that a quarter life crisis is a real thing. I just turned 21 not too long ago, and I’m about to graduate college, and it’s scary cause I’m not entirely sure what I’m going to do with my life, but it’s all happening so fast. Glad to see that there’s other people in my boat too :)

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