What to Do If You’re in a Quarter Life Crisis

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Don’t sweat it – the quarter life crisis is a real thing. I think that, up until recently, there was a lot of stigma surrounding the term from older adults looking at us and saying, “They think they have it so bad! Just wait till they’re our age and they find out what the real world is like. Then they’ll have a crisis.

” Paul Angone of “All Grown Up” sums it up perfectly: “you’re emerging into adulthood, and in the process, feel like you’re getting the insides ripped out of you like crab legs at a Las Vegas buffet.” Well said, Paul, well said. But with the way society is these days, forcing us to grow up quicker, to find our way sooner, to be a certain way when we haven’t exactly discovered our true selves first, the idea of a quarter life crisis is a valid issue. You’re not alone!

I’m no expert, but I have had some major breakdowns of my own and hopefully some of the lessons I’ve learned might help.

ACCEPT WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE

Before anything else, accept where you are in life. You’re in a slump, so what? You’ve got to have the lows to appreciate the highs. Wallowing away in the fact that you’re suffering a quarter life crisis will only make you feel worse and take time away from you lifting yourself back up.

FIND A MENTOR

Find a mentor who is not related to you. When I’m going through a hard time, I always call my mom immediately, but to tell you the truth, she’s so invested in me – her only daughter – that she can’t evaluate my situation without bias. Find somebody you admire who will talk to you with a clear perspective, somebody who is close enough to you that you feel comfortable confiding in but distant enough that your decisions won’t affect them personally.

ELIMINATE ONE NEGATIVE ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE

Pick one thing that is bothering you most about your life and change it. This could be something tiny, like being in an argument with your best friend or something major, like wanting to change jobs. Eliminating one negative aspect of your life will bring immediate relief.

WHAT ARE YOUR FLAWS

Make a list of what you could improve about yourself. Acknowledge your flaws and your vices, your hurdles and weak points. Only then can they be tackled.

GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

Take a risk. Get out of your comfort zone because it’s clearly not doing you any good right now. You won’t get anywhere new if you keep doing what you’ve always done. In a crisis, you have nothing to lose, so just go for it and don’t regret your decision to move forward!

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Don’t let your short-term vision compromise your long-term vision. It will not last forever so try to think as calmly and as rationally as you can in the moment. Don’t let your thoughts carry you away. Breathe. This too shall pass.

Fill up the tank for a spontaneous road trip. Get a tattoo. Whatever floats your boat. But no matter what you decide, just keep swimmin’.

Written by Britany Powell

Photography Pinterest & Getty

16 Comments
  1. I love this post. I’m 21 years old and i’m for sure in my quarter life crisis. This helps a lot, Thank youuuu! :)
    x Rita

  2. This is soooo true! I hate the misconception that when you’re young you have no issues and no responsiblities therefore nothing to strees about. For me personally, all my freinds are engaged/married and buying/renting houses while also thinking about kids and here I am trying to figure out how to pay for my gym membership and my student loans….The struggle is definitely real! What has helped me so much is the quote “Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.” I have so much growing to do and even though right now feels difficult this too shall pass.

  3. Getting out of your comfort zone is a great because it can bring a new perspective, making you see things in a different light, which being stuck in a quarter life crisis, can be really refreshing and exactly what you need to get out of it.

    Emily | Always Emily

  4. That quote is very smart! I have been in my quarter life crisis as well but at least I now have a plan how I want to make my life better! For me it was the feeling that the perspectives I had with my course of studies were not nice at all, although I had the potential to be very successfull. But I just didn’t like the work I was doing. For me it really helped to feel that I am in control of my life by tiny actions like getting up early and going for a run or something like that. And I took a long time of and traveled around the world, so I could get some new perspectives and to think. I really liked this post! It’s always nice to know that we are not alone :)

    http://www.happiness-treasures.blogspot.com

  5. lol even though i have the best friends i usually head to my mom, too… and definitely eliminating most negative things from my life the past year and also taking a risk after the next… probably the right way then? :-D

  6. Thank you so much for this post! I’ve been stuck in a rut for awhile now, and after ridding myself of one of those negative aspects of my life, I really felt a whole lot better. It’s amazing how much of a hold negative things can have on your whole mindset and wellbeing. Loved this! <3

  7. This is a great article! I’m really glad that more people are beginning to accept the fact that a quarter life crisis is a real thing. I just turned 21 not too long ago, and I’m about to graduate college, and it’s scary cause I’m not entirely sure what I’m going to do with my life, but it’s all happening so fast. Glad to see that there’s other people in my boat too :)

  8. I wish I came across this website and article sooner! I’m 26 (turning 27 next month) and I was definitely going through a quarter life crisis. I never finished college, and that really bothered me. I recently lost my job but I believe everything happens for a reason. Since loosing my job I have enrolled back in school and focused more on my blog. I have accepted my faults, now it’s time to be the woman I’ve always wanted to me. :)

    -Ladreena | http://www.heartdreenie.com

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